What You Ought to Know About "The Comparison Trap"
If you told me last year that I would be entering the entrepreneur life, I would have laughed at you hysterically--without shame. Why? Because I didn't see myself as "entrepreneur material". When I looked at other entrepreneurs, I didn't seem smart enough, stylish enough, talented enough, and so many other things. Does any of this sound familiar to you? Have you been holding back because you don't think you have what it takes to be successful? I hate to break it to you this way, but you've fallen victim to the "comparison trap". The comparison trap is a success blocker that has proven victorious over many, but your story can be different.
So, what do you need to remember when you realize you've fallen victim to the "comparison trap"?
- Focus on your strengths.
Did you know you are poisoning your mind and future when you speak negatively about yourself? It's great to admire certain things about others, but not at the expense of tearing yourself down. I challenge you to think about all of the wonderful strengths you have. Focus on how your strengths can lead you to achieve the success you want and deserve.
2. Remember, you only see the present day version of others.
It is incredibly unfair to compare your life to that successful person you admire so much. Why? Because you probably don't even know how they got to where they are today! Even if you know a little "behind the scene" details, I guarantee you were not there for every moment of doubt, fear, and frustration that your beloved endured. So, cut yourself some slack. It took some serious work for them to reach their goal, and it will for you, too.
3. Successful people compare themselves to others, too!
Yes, it's true. Every person on the face of this Earth--including every successful person you admire--has compared themselves to others. It's human nature, I suppose. No one wants to feel like a failure--not even the great "gurus" of our time. It's just not a great feeling. Yet, you need to understand that sometimes, you just need to shake off the dirt, and keep moving. Remember, it's okay to identify areas in which you may need to improve; however, you should never believe there is something intrinsically wrong with you, and is in turn blocking you from success.
4. Comparing yourself to others can make you jealous and unhappy.
When you haven't been as successful as you'd like, you can become jealous and unhappy. You may feel like everyone else just has this "thing" that you don't. Trust me, you don't want to spend your life as a sour lemon. Instead of being jealous and unhappy about others' success, I challenge you to find out what it took for them to reach their goal. Then, decide which of their action steps you can implement into your life.
As I close this Success Blockers Series, I challenge you to think about what you've learned, and let me know how you plan to achieve your next goal. If you haven't begun to make necessary adjustments to your life, then what are you waiting for? We have so many success blockers (or excuses) for why we haven't gone after our dream. Remember, you hold the keys to your success. I know you can do it. Do you?
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